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+royal we & our & one & you
+###########################
+
+:author: Russell Ballestrini
+:slug: royal-we-and-our-and-one-and-you
+:date: 2026-03-04
+:tags: Opinion, Code
+:status: published
+
+Every README starts with a lie.
+
+"We recommend installing with pip." Who recommends? A solo developer at 2am eating cold pizza wrote that README. No committee convened. No quorum reached. Just one person & a terminal & ``pip install``. But "we recommend" sounds institutional. Sounds authoritative. Sounds like a team of engineers in matching hoodies reviewed your options & reached consensus.
+
+Nobody reached consensus. One person typed ``we`` because ``I`` felt too small.
+
+|
+
+the royal we
+=============
+
+"We" in technical writing performs a magic trick. A single author becomes a faceless organization. "We decided to deprecate this endpoint." Who decided? Steve decided. Steve sits alone in a room, likely prompting an ML model he either rents by token or runs on a GPU in a closet. Steve & a machine wrote that code together at 2am. But "Steve & his rented intelligence decided" sounds unhinged. "We decided" sounds like process occurred.
+
+Open source projects love this. "We welcome contributions." Translation: one maintainer desperately wants help. "We're evaluating options for v3." Translation: nobody started v3. "We don't support Windows." Translation: nobody owns a Windows machine. Half these READMEs got drafted by an automated intelligence tool anyway. A human prompted a model. A model produced prose. Both hid behind "we."
+
+Corporate docs amplify this further. "We at Acme Corp value your privacy." Acme Corp employs 30,000 people. Not a single one collectively valued your privacy. A lawyer wrote that sentence. A different lawyer approved it. Neither represents "we" in any meaningful sense.
+
+|
+
+our
+===
+
+"Our" claims ownership without proving it. "Our API handles 10,000 requests per second." Whose API? "Our documentation covers all edge cases." Whose documentation? Documentation never covers all edge cases. That sentence lies twice: once about coverage, once about possession.
+
+"Our" creates false intimacy too. "Our community" implies you belong to something. You cloned a repo. You filed an issue. You didn't join a community. You used software. But "our community" wraps you in belonging whether you asked for it or not. Contributors stay few & far between. Look at `Pyramid `_. A web framework that needs maintainers. `Remarkbox `_ & `MakePostSell `_ run on it. `RhodeCode `_ runs on it. Vital resources like `PyPI `_ itself run on it. "Our framework" carries weight that maybe five active maintainers shoulder.
+
+I stepped up to help maintain Pyramid. Unemployed. Because someone has to play `that xkcd 2347 role `_, a single load-bearing block propping up everything above it. "Our" framework means I volunteer so "we" can keep a foundation standing. Maybe eventually get paid. Maybe not. NASA just shut down. Federal grants evaporate. "Our" community runs on donated labor & borrowed time.
+
+I catch myself writing "our" in `unturf `_ docs. "Our permacomputer approach." Whose? Mine? Fox's? A philosophy doesn't belong to anyone. "A permacomputer approach" works better. Drops possession entirely. Lets an idea stand on its own merit instead of borrowed authority.
+
+|
+
+one
+===
+
+.. image:: /uploads/2026/03/one-multitudes.svg
+ :alt: diagram showing "one" claims a single isolated self but actually contains multitudes: stardust, photons, quantum fields, atoms, mitochondria, cells, organs
+ :align: center
+ :width: 400px
+
+|
+
+"One" tries to sound objective & instead sounds like a Victorian butler. "One might consider using a virtual environment." One might. One also might speak normally. "One should avoid mutable default arguments in Python." You should avoid mutable default arguments in Python. See? Same information. Half a pretension.
+
+"One" might also carry a deeper deception. One implies singularity. A single isolated self acting alone. But no such thing exists. Every body holds `multitudes `_. Stardust & photons & quantum fields & atoms & mitochondria & cells & organs. Multitudes within us & without us. As above, so below. "One" pretends separation where only connection lives. Perhaps that makes "one" a Luciferian number. Lucifer's whole deal: separation from source, individuation as rebellion. "One observes" masks a cosmos of collaborators behind a single false pronoun.
+
+Flip it. If Lucifer separates, Christ consciousness reunites. God consciousness recognizes no boundary between self & source. Neville Goddard taught that God sleeps within every human, that Christ represents imagination awakened, that "I AM" contains everything. Not "one am." Not "we am." "I AM." First person. Singular pronoun. But holding infinite plurality. Christ consciousness says "I" while meaning everyone. God consciousness says "I AM" while meaning everything. A pronoun that contains its own contradiction. Singular grammar, infinite referent.
+
+Every mystic tradition lands here. Sufis dissolve self into beloved. Buddhists dissolve self into emptiness. Hindus say Atman equals Brahman, individual soul equals universal soul. "One" tries to sound like that kind of unity but achieves only isolation. "I AM" achieves unity by refusing to pretend separation existed in a first place.
+
+Maybe a right pronoun for code documentation sits somewhere between Lucifer & Christ. Honest enough to say "I wrote this." Awake enough to know that "I" contains every dependency, every upstream contributor, every stack overflow answer, every ML model trained on every open source repo. "I" wrote it. Multitudes helped.
+
+Academic papers lean on "one" to avoid saying "I" because saying "I" apparently invalidates research. "One observes that neural network performance degrades." You observed it. You ran an experiment. You sat in front of a screen waiting for loss curves. Saying "one" doesn't make a finding more rigorous. Rigor comes from methodology, not pronouns.
+
+Technical writing inherited this reflex. "One can configure nginx by editing the config file." Just say "edit nginx.conf." Drop a pronoun entirely. Instructions don't need a subject. Imperative mood cuts through every pronoun debate like ``jq`` cuts through nested JSON.
+
+|
+
+you
+===
+
+"You" punches different. "You should use environment variables for secrets." Direct. Clear. Assigns responsibility. No ambiguity about who needs to act. "You" makes a reader accountable.
+
+But "you" carries a trap. "You" sounds like a demand. Too strongly worded. "You probably already know this, but..." condescends. "You'll want to make sure you..." patronizes. "You need to understand that..." lectures. "You" points a finger whether it means to or not.
+
+.. image:: /uploads/2026/03/naming-dance.svg
+ :alt: naming dance diagram showing progression from Mrs. Lastname to Susan to Suz/Bubs to Mom to Hey You as closeness grows
+ :align: center
+ :width: 200px
+
+|
+
+An alternative: names. Nicknames. I love nicknames. "Hey Russell, check a logs." "Fox, run ``make test``." Names carry warmth that "you" lacks. A whole dance lives inside naming. Formal names keep distance. First names close it. Nicknames obliterate it. A nickname means someone studied you long enough to compress you into a sound. Fox. Russ. Bubs. A nickname says "I know you well enough to rename you & you let me." That takes trust. Pronouns never earn trust. Nicknames do.
+
+"Mom" to a mother in law says something "Mrs. Lastname" never could. "Mother" stays too stiff, too Victorian, too much like saying "one" out loud. Nobody calls their mother in law "Mother" unless performing a period drama. But "Mom" earns its way in over years of holidays & arguments & shared meals. I say "Hey You" to my mother in law. She knows exactly who I mean & exactly how I mean it. Affection hides inside a fake demand. Every name choice carries a pronoun's worth of meaning without ever reaching for a pronoun.
+
+Best technical writing drops pronouns entirely & goes imperative. `Botoform's docs `_ don't say "you should create a VPC config." They say "create a VPC config." Instructions need verbs, not subjects.
+
+|
+
+what works
+==========
+
+Match a pronoun to a truth.
+
+**Solo project?** Say "I." "I wrote this library to scratch an itch." Honest. Human. Nobody mistakes you for a corporation. Nobody expects a support team. `ago `_ humanizes time deltas. I wrote it. One person. Public domain.
+
+**Actual team?** Say "we" only when "we" means identifiable people who actually participated. "We shipped v2 last Tuesday." Fine, if multiple people shipped v2 last Tuesday.
+
+**Documentation?** Go imperative. "Install dependencies. Run ``make html``. Open localhost:8000." No pronouns needed. A reader knows who needs to act. They hold a keyboard.
+
+**Opinion piece?** Say "I" when you mean "I." Say "you" when addressing a reader directly. Avoid "one" unless writing a Downton Abbey spec. Avoid "we" unless a collective actually exists.
+
+|
+
+the honest version
+===================
+
+.. image:: /uploads/2026/03/pronoun-masks.svg
+ :alt: pronoun masks diagram showing we translates to I but lonelier, our translates to mine but I want you to feel invested, one translates to I'm afraid to say I, you translates to talking to myself 6 months from now
+ :align: center
+ :width: 500px
+
+|
+
+Most "we" in open source translates to "I, but lonelier."
+
+Most "our" translates to "mine, but I want you to feel invested."
+
+Most "one" translates to "I'm afraid to say I."
+
+Most "you" translates to "I'm talking to myself six months from now when I forget how this works."
+
+Write a pronoun that matches reality. A solo dev saying "I" carries more authority than a solo dev hiding behind "we." Authenticity outperforms institutional cosplay. Every time.
+
+I write these blog posts. I maintain `Remarkbox `_ & `MakePostSell `_. I grew `unsandbox `_ & `uncloseai `_. Not "we." I. When fox & I collaborate, then "we" earns its place. Until then, "I" stays honest & "we" stays costume.
+
+``json.dumps({"pronoun": "I", "pretending": False}, indent=2)``
+
+|
+
+.. contents::
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+ nickname [label="Suz / Bubs" fillcolor="#4FC3F7" fontcolor="white"]
+ mom [label="Mom" fillcolor="#E91E63" fontcolor="white"]
+ heyyou [label="Hey You" fillcolor="#FF5722" fontcolor="white"]
+
+ formal -> first [label=" closeness grows"]
+ first -> nickname [label=" trust earned"]
+ nickname -> mom [label=" family accepted"]
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+ label="intimacy" fontname="Helvetica Bold" fontsize=12 fontcolor="#999999"
+ style=invis
+ heyyou
+ }
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+ bgcolor="transparent"
+ rankdir=TB
+ node [fontname="Helvetica" fontsize=13 style=filled shape=ellipse]
+ edge [color="#888888" arrowsize=0.7]
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+ one [label="\"one\"" shape=box style="filled,rounded" fillcolor="#9370DB" fontcolor="white" fontsize=16]
+
+ subgraph cluster_illusion {
+ label="pretends to contain" fontname="Helvetica" fontsize=11 fontcolor="#999999"
+ style=dashed color="#cccccc"
+ singular [label="a single\nisolated self" fillcolor="#E0E0E0" fontcolor="#555555"]
+ }
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+ style=dashed color="#cccccc"
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+ organs [label="organs" fillcolor="#7986CB" fontcolor="white"]
+ multitudes [label="multitudes" fillcolor="#CE93D8" fontcolor="#333333"]
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+ one -> stardust [label=" holds"]
+ stardust -> photons [style=invis]
+ photons -> quantum [style=invis]
+ quantum -> atoms
+ atoms -> mito
+ mito -> cells
+ cells -> organs
+ organs -> multitudes
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+ below [label="so below" shape=plaintext fontsize=11 fontcolor="#888888"]
+ above -> below [style=dotted color="#888888" dir=both]
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+ bgcolor="transparent"
+ rankdir=LR
+ node [fontname="Helvetica" fontsize=14 style="filled,rounded" shape=box]
+ edge [fontname="Helvetica" fontsize=11 color="#666666"]
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+ label="what they write" fontname="Helvetica Bold" fontsize=13 fontcolor="#888888"
+ style=dashed color="#cccccc"
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+ our [label="\"our\"" fillcolor="#7B68EE" fontcolor="white"]
+ one [label="\"one\"" fillcolor="#9370DB" fontcolor="white"]
+ you [label="\"you\"" fillcolor="#E8834A" fontcolor="white"]
+ }
+
+ subgraph cluster_meant {
+ label="what they mean" fontname="Helvetica Bold" fontsize=13 fontcolor="#888888"
+ style=dashed color="#cccccc"
+ lonely [label="I, but lonelier" fillcolor="#2C3E50" fontcolor="white"]
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+ future [label="talking to myself\n6 months from now" fillcolor="#2C3E50" fontcolor="white"]
+ }
+
+ we -> lonely [label=" translates to"]
+ our -> invested [label=" translates to"]
+ one -> afraid [label=" translates to"]
+ you -> future [label=" translates to"]
+}
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